Commentary by Sally Bassett
Do you have a child that is going off to college for the first time… or even starting kindergarten? Are you trying to get over an unhealthy relationship? Is grieving for someone or something not letting you move on? What would you like to let go of in your life?
As parents, when you raise your children you always want to give them “roots to grow and wings to fly.” Sometimes, however, it is harder than you think to truly let go for your sake more than theirs. Letting go of anything that is holding you back from being content or truly happy is something that you have to purposefully release. It doesn’t mean you care less. It is realizing that nothing is yours permanently in the first place.
When I was single I remember having an unhealthy crush on one of our pilots. At a weekend retreat there was an activity where I sat across from an empty chair and told the person why the relationship wasn’t healthy. Gradually the chair was moved back a couple of feet at a time visualizing the person going out of my life. It worked because I confronted what I needed to let go of to have a healthy self-esteem and move toward the future with joy.
One of the biggest lessons I learn on the yoga mat is learning to let go of expectations and judgment. When you learn to let go of the small stuff, you learn to let go of the bigger concerns in life.
The ancient book of the Bhagavad Gita is filled with lessons about letting go, including the following passage: “Though the unwise cling to their actions, watching for results, the wise are free of attachments, and act for the well-being of the whole world.”
For those who have seen the lotus pond near Boone Village here in Zionsville, it is a great analogy of how beautiful letting go and rising above it all can be. The lotus flower starts out as a seed, rises from the lowest point in muddy water and grows upward toward the light. Once it rises up, it never touches the murky water again and is one of the most extraordinary and revered flowers in the world.
May you commit to letting go of something that is not working in your life right now. Letting go often means rising above it all to blossom like never before. Until next time… Namaste!